When we were children we didn’t have much control of our lives, but now that we are adults we finally the freedom to have the control we have been waiting for! We finally don’t have to be trapped in a nightmare of a situation anymore waiting until we are old enough to leave and walk away from the things that might be hurting us. We don’t HAVE to live in the town that we might hate. We don’t have to depend on others to pay for us to get the help and things that we need. Finally, we can make our own decisions to get where we need to go and be who we want to be. Yes, we have some limitations of course, everyone does, but if you find your way to play your cards right you could get to the point where money isn’t a limit, where sickness isn’t a limit, and where your mental health isn’t a limit for you anymore either.
With having more freedom to choose where we live and who we have around in our life, if we get ourselves into messy situations as an adult that is mostly on us now, not our parents anymore so we can’t blame them. We had made the choices we did to get ourselves into that sucky situation and now we have more of the tools to help us find a way out than we might of had as a kid. Take control and stop complaining. Leave the people behind who hurt you, unlike you couldn’t do when you were younger and were trapped and abused. You are in control now. Take control and stop letting people destroy you. You have the ability to decide and get yourself where you need to be. You have the ability now to live the life you want to live.
Yes, I know. It isn’t fair how much we may have been damaged from our childhood. It isn’t right that our past haunts us everyday and we can literally feel it holding us back from happiness. It is unjust that we did nothing wrong as children, but our souls and mentality got destroyed anyway.
But now you can walk away from all of that. You can work on leaving as much of that in the past as possible. You can use some of that pain and disaster to find a way to help others. You can better yourself through the pain and become a better person than you ever thought possible for you to be.
All you have to do is take the next step and decide. Make a plan on what you need to do or who you need to seek for help. Pick the best people or things in your life that give you the most inspiration and that give you love to have around. Find things that make you feel admired and that make you feel inspired. Search for things that help you love life and heal.
It is a lot like picking a beautiful flower. Choose to pick a beautiful life. Not a poisonous one. Not one that makes you feel lonely and sad and helps you achieve nothing. Pick one that helps you grow and love who you are.
Don’t be afraid to like childish things! Liking childish things doesn’t make you childish! Avoiding or not making time for your responsibilities FOR childish things is what makes you childish! There is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself in life while doing the things you need to do. If anything it will make the things you need to do easier and more enjoyable! For example, I love pokemon. I don’t consume myself in it, but there is nothing wrong with going to the grocery store or working out in pokemon attire. It makes me a little more light hearted and happier and it also reminds me of who I am! Enjoy and accept yourself! Enjoying yourself while making progress will only help you love yourself more!
What do we see in someone when we say “Wow! That person is awesome!”? What makes them “awesome” in our opinion? What makes them grab our attention and go “wow!”?
It is the fact that they have achieved something. That they have shown that they had made it through an obstacle or hardship no matter how big or small. It is the observation by us that they have tried, gave it their all, and had put in the work and effort to get to where they are today.
Do you know what is awesome? Trying. Do you know what is awesome? Giving when you have nothing to give. Do you know what is awesome? Kindness. Creativity. Showing us the real you.
Some awesome people in my opinion are the people who put themselves out there to be heard because for some, like myself, that is hard work. Anyone who has taken time out of their day to push their bodies a little bit further in fitness than they are used to are awesome to me. Even people who usually work themselves to death and decide to take a day of rest are awesome to me because giving yourself a break is hard. People who give to help others with their time, money, or kindness are also awesome to me because time, money, and kindness are hard to come by and even harder to give for some people. It is all about stepping out of your comfort zone and for once not taking the easy way out but trying something difficult for you to help you grow.
So why don’t you pick yourself up and conquer your hardships? Why don’t you push yourself even just an inch more than you are used to everyday? You are just that one step away from being awesome in the eyes of others and most importantly yourself. You could be that one person who people look up to and go “Wow! He/She is awesome!”. You could be that one person who you smile at in the morning when looking at yourself in the mirror saying to yourself “Wow. I’m awesome!”.
It isn’t conceited. It isn’t wrong. It is right for you to love yourself and to be happy with who you are. You are capable of great things and one of the greatest things you are capable of is loving yourself. And one of the greatest gifts we are given is the ability to try.
So go that extra inch or mile today to help you become who you want to be! Push yourself just a little bit harder so you can be that “Wow! They are awesome!” person! Even if you don’t make it to your goal. Even if it takes time. Trying is awesome and trying is what makes YOU awesome.
I would highly recommend the book The Power Of When by Michael Breus, PhD, if you feel like you are lacking time and energy to do all the things you want and need to do while feeling at your best. Before I read this book I felt like a mess. I was tired when I didn’t want to be. When I finally had time to write I was falling asleep and not doing it to what I believed was the best of my ability. When it was time to turn in for the night I would lay awake for hours not being able to fall asleep. Also, which I’m sure many people could relate to, when my husband and I finally got some time together we were crabby with each other because we were so exhausted from our busy days.
Now, since reading the book and doing what it has said for the last month I feel like a whole new person. I am much happier, feel great about my productivity, and enjoy my time with husband and kids more. The best part for me though is the fact that I can lie down in bed now and literally fall asleep in five to ten minutes instead of wasting hours getting frustrated with myself for not being able to sleep, and my sleep quality has improved so I don’t have to sleep as much!
I can’t follow the advice and scientific evidence given in the book exactly, because I have two kids, but it really has made a difference in my life with just the small changes I have made. If you are looking for something to help you learn to manage your time better and help you become a better you, I would look into it!
You NEED to dream! You NEED to fight for your dreams! You NEED to conquer your fight. You NEED to love. You NEED to live to love. And you NEED to take a moment to breathe to REALLY live.
Just some thoughts to keep in mind and take to heart. Dream, fight, conquer, love, live, breathe.
Crazy to think that at this moment no one knows what was going through my head but me. And in a however many years or months I also won’t know. A thought gone forever. How many thoughts, feelings, and memories are gone forever in our lives? How many thoughts and memories slip away without us even noticing? Sad to think that we have lost so much since we were young. Just have to continually make and build new memories and thoughts and try to hold on to them as long as we can so that way they can be cherished and appreciated before they dissappear forever. Because our thoughts and feelings are what helps us live and what makes us. Just think. If instead of thinking of thoughts as only thoughts take a moment to think about why you think the certain thoughts you think. That can help you start to unlock who you are. #cherishyourthoughts