When we were children we didn’t have much control of our lives, but now that we are adults we finally the freedom to have the control we have been waiting for! We finally don’t have to be trapped in a nightmare of a situation anymore waiting until we are old enough to leave and walk away from the things that might be hurting us. We don’t HAVE to live in the town that we might hate. We don’t have to depend on others to pay for us to get the help and things that we need. Finally, we can make our own decisions to get where we need to go and be who we want to be. Yes, we have some limitations of course, everyone does, but if you find your way to play your cards right you could get to the point where money isn’t a limit, where sickness isn’t a limit, and where your mental health isn’t a limit for you anymore either.
With having more freedom to choose where we live and who we have around in our life, if we get ourselves into messy situations as an adult that is mostly on us now, not our parents anymore so we can’t blame them. We had made the choices we did to get ourselves into that sucky situation and now we have more of the tools to help us find a way out than we might of had as a kid. Take control and stop complaining. Leave the people behind who hurt you, unlike you couldn’t do when you were younger and were trapped and abused. You are in control now. Take control and stop letting people destroy you. You have the ability to decide and get yourself where you need to be. You have the ability now to live the life you want to live.
Yes, I know. It isn’t fair how much we may have been damaged from our childhood. It isn’t right that our past haunts us everyday and we can literally feel it holding us back from happiness. It is unjust that we did nothing wrong as children, but our souls and mentality got destroyed anyway.
But now you can walk away from all of that. You can work on leaving as much of that in the past as possible. You can use some of that pain and disaster to find a way to help others. You can better yourself through the pain and become a better person than you ever thought possible for you to be.
All you have to do is take the next step and decide. Make a plan on what you need to do or who you need to seek for help. Pick the best people or things in your life that give you the most inspiration and that give you love to have around. Find things that make you feel admired and that make you feel inspired. Search for things that help you love life and heal.
It is a lot like picking a beautiful flower. Choose to pick a beautiful life. Not a poisonous one. Not one that makes you feel lonely and sad and helps you achieve nothing. Pick one that helps you grow and love who you are.